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Coffee Time with Carlos Machado
Start Your Morning with Coffee, Conversation, and Real-Life Wisdom
Most people never get the chance to do what they love, not because they can't, but because of the stories they believe or the setbacks they've faced. But adversity doesn't have to define you. You can rise above it and go further than you ever imagined.
Join me, Carlos Machado, every Monday through Thursday at 9:00 AM CST for Coffee Time With Carlos, where we blend 50 years of martial arts experience and over three decades in business into conversations that inspire, challenge, and uplift.
If I can share even one insight that helps you grow stronger mentally, physically, or spiritually then every episode is worth it. Because in the end, we are all one… or all none.
So pour a cup, pull up a chair, and let’s share life together.
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Coffee Time with Carlos Machado
Ep. 14 | Duane Spires: The Real Game of Success
What happens when the outside looks “successful”… but the inside is falling apart?
In Episode 14 of Coffee Time with Carlos, we sit down with Duane Spires (co-founder of Success Team Coaching) for a deep, honest conversation about the kind of leadership that holds up under pressure at home, in business, and in life.
Duane has a way of saying the quiet part out loud: “The way you do one thing is the way you do all things.” And from there, we go straight into the real work—integrity, self-leadership, the danger of your default future—that predictable life you drift into if you don’t make intentional changes. We break down what it means to improve by 1%, not just in your academy or business, but in your marriage, your parenting, your health, and your mindset.
Duane shares powerful insight from years of coaching school owners—and also shares parts of his own story with real vulnerability. This episode is a raw view of generational patterns and breaking the chains before they get passed down.
The answers of these questions are in this episode:
- Why the biggest temptation of leadership is isolation
- The difference between being “nice” and being kind
- Why top leaders have less options… and more freedom
- How to build teams and servant leaders who will eventually outperform you
- Why not everyone is for you—and why standards protect culture
And yes… we even talk about coffee ☕️
Timestamps ⏱️
00:00 Intro + sponsors
02:10 Why integrity matters: one life, one standard
06:15 Business success vs. personal failure
10:20 Default future & the cost of ignoring problems
15:30 Redefining “the game” of life and leadership
21:10 Transformational work before business strategy
28:40 Breaking generational patterns & forgiveness
36:30 Leadership, circles, and having “less options”
44:20 Nice vs. kind: powerful conversations & boundaries
52:30 Building leaders who outperform you
59:50 Faith, desperation, and Duane’s turning point
1:08:40 What Duane does: summer camps, afterschool & impact
1:15:30 Final reflections + closing
Sponsors
☕️ Stay Humble Coffee — https://stayhumblecoffee.com/
👣 Abstract Chimp — https://abstractchimp.com/
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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/duanespires/
Success Team Coaching: successteamcoaching.com
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SuccessTeamCoaching
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